Chapter 12 – Together, to welcome the newborn

Although some scholars such as Frédérick Leboyer — who has repeatedly described fathers as “intruders,” accusing them of “distracting” the mother’s attention from the newborn — or Michel Odent — who, speaking of women’s generative power, has pointed out how the presence of the father can block the automatic, instinctive mechanisms that facilitate expulsion — it is now widely recognized that the presence and closeness of the partner have positive effects on the smooth outcome of childbirth.

According to the latest CeDAP Report (Certificate of Assistance at Birth) on childbirth in Italy, related to 2017 and published by the Statistics Office of the Ministry of Health in September 2020 (29), “in 91.85% of vaginal deliveries, the woman had the child’s father next to her at the time of birth, in 6.7% a family member, and in 1.4% another trusted person”.

Being present at the birth of one’s child is a great opportunity for personal growth, a beautiful chapter to write in the couple’s story, a journey through emotional bonding, an extraordinary emotion.

To be helpful, however, the father must convey calm and instill confidence in the laboring woman. He must not impose his presence unnecessarily and must adapt to the constant and sudden mood swings, outbursts of anger and frustration from his partner, helping her overcome them with the supportive help of the healthcare staff.

It is therefore advisable for the father to take part in childbirth preparation courses, especially the sessions focused on labor and birth, so that he will be prepared for the most overwhelming moment of his life!